Echoes...

echoes in the chamber of our heart

has there ever been a time when you knew it was best to end a relationship but the words "I love you".. "I'm sorry".. "I need you".. "It won't happen again".. "It was a mistake; will you forgive me".. "You're the ONE I love".. "I'll try harder".. "We belong together".. etc, etc, etc.. kept echoing in the chamber of your heart over And over And over again?.. And somehow those words were on playback for several months or even years.. .. somehow that bond had been broken And there was an obvious disconnect.. .. somehow "I love you" just wasn't enough anymore?.. Have you gotten to place - yet - where you realize it takes more than love?.. ||A connection is Awesome ||Um good chemistry is Fabulous WHEN you combine |/love |/a good connect |/and fabulous chemistry.. you're own your way BUT you hav2 to know that there's STILL work.. .. .. a work that takes two willing partners!.. daaaaats IF a committed relationship is what you're looking for.. IF not "carry on" BUT here's a suggestion: save yourself for someone who is worthy - don't haphazardly give your love away!.. it's much too precious *wink* 

I know.. I know.. some of you may look at me as an old-fogey-stogie *lol* 
well.. first.. "I'm not" *lol* but really, one of the simplest truths I can share with you is when you truly know how to love yourself - you will better know how to love others And discern who is worthy And deserving of your love.. it's knowing your love is a 'precious' gift !!! it's notA offering or donation !!!.. .. you hold on to it until the Receiver is worthy of such a gift.. .. .. .. EVEN with the occasional slip\mistake - KNOW - your self worth      

I certainly haven't given up on love *unt uh NEVER* I simply slam the door on heartache !!! And then I just walk away *double wink* haha

All you need is a whisper ~~~~ > "I love myself".. add some reverb to that And it will drown out all that other nonsense*lol* it seems we sometimes waste too much time on empty words broken promises And shallow intent. I've said - a million times - I believe loving someone And having someone love you back is a beautiful thing; it's yummy; eat it up *smile* it's the NOT really knowing how to love ourselves THAT is the bigger issue.

Divinely effortless!

thankful the totality of my truth is not found in the words of another; my beauty is not shown solely inA mirror; my joy is not contingent on circumstance; my peace is not realized only in certain environments... ... ...  And my love is endless. yep!.. thankful to my Creator

when we are divinely connected with who we Are - our actions behavior And conversation is rarely forced... ... ... RATHER it is divinely effortless.

to the abused child :: the awkward tween ** the insecure teen ** the impulsive young adult ** the unstable adult (at certain times I've been each of the above) please know with all certainty that though you did not write the beginning of your story... you Are, most certainly, the author And publisher of the end!... ... ... leave behind a good quality of LIFE leaving precious nuggets scattered along your way :: knowledge, good judgment, An open window of insightfulness And truth... ... ... receiving And offering the gift of love compassion And understanding. I encourage you to encourage the young girl who seems to be full of anger; the young lady who has a heavy heart; the adult who is full of disappointment(s); the elderly woman who is all alone... a simple act that could saveA life *smile* someone is looking forA word *believe it*

Staying true to me!

1."Whenever I feel A waver in my character - I simply stiffen my spin"

2."I carry Integrity with me as I would saaaaay my lipstick & photo ID"

These are two of my favorite personal quotes And they serve as constant reminders... I've learned that sometimes we have to 'speak A word' to ourselves!.. I believe spoken words coupled with - forward - progressive actions And positive precepts  =  A lifestyle layered with opportunities And healthy growth. 

Moving through life... I - And perhaps you as well - have found myself in certain situations... I/we may have been thrust into A foreign and/or dubious environment... there may have been A-time-or-two when we were called upon to give a truthful account of our actions... perhaps we've said something that has been 'called to carpet' because of someone's hurt feelings...

There are open windows of opportunity for us to:: turn our head And look in the other direction; turn a 'deaf ear' to something that was said; maintain a closed mouth - when every inward impulse is urging us speak up And speak out... Doesn't it feel great when we act on these open windows of opportunity in a manner that shines as a staple of integrity? *smilin*

I knooooooow I don't get it all right - all - of time !!! but I'm thankful I am not blinded by self-denial or complacent And comfortable with shallow or stunted mental physical And spiritual growth. I'm even happier I am not bound by indignation or held back by self righteousness - casting a judgmental eye And pointing a judgmental finger... I love the idea of continually working on self And I am so very thankful for the opportunity.

Pamella @PoodleTweeting

Positive Precepts... precious priceless dynamic And undeniable

As full grown woman SOME of us occasionally look to be reminded that we are unique complex And beautiful in our own individual right. And we are - all of that - Each of us! 

But, take a second to think about this, if we sometimes find ourselves looking for reassurance And affirmation... imagine how confused lost And uncertain SOME of our daughters nieces, And the younger generation as a whole, are.

I mean IF we as mothers aunts etc., don't realize how precious priceless dynamic And undeniable we are, how can we expect the young-ins to know who And what they are? 

We're surprised when we see them putting value on big behinds thick thighs And large breast... And - yes - all of that is lovely - BUT shouldn't she know that it's her inner development that truly determines her self worth?.. Priceless!

And as not to offend anyone, I'm certain many of us already realize this (I mean I'm not blogging about anything any sensible woman don't already know) BUT we must question THEN why - IF there ARE so many of us who "already know this" - do we have so many of our youth who are uncertain of who they are || of how they should present themselves || of what their true value really is || or what direction they should go?.. And I'm speaking of a multitude not just 1 or 2.

- We shake our heads when we see them 'Twerk' (sensually dancing)

- We cover our mouth point our finger And whisper when we see them scantily dressed

  

Rather than sit in judgment of what we think is improper - wouldn't it be more productive to enrich a young girls life?.. Do you have the desire to let one two three, OR MORE, know they are precious jewels?.. Wouldn't you much rather wrap them with words of loving kindness And say to them "You are beautiful"... "May I teach you how to better love yourself"... "You are amazing; let's direct your thoughts And actions toward a substanial future"... "the love you're searching for - must first be realized - inside of you - not simply in a mirror" ... ... ...

I am primarily concerned withA solution (I lay judgement and finger pointing aside) I welcome the opportunity to communicate - love - through action, deed, verbal And written expression *smile*

"Each one Teach one"... An old African Proverb that can certainly be reintroduced And utilized today *smile* IF you too havA voice And desire to share, leave your comment here, or hit me up @PoodleTweeting     "Effective communication in love" Poodle


Excerpt "Having Tea with My Sisters"
"It is absolutely imperative that we initiate a positive developmental pattern, in our youth, instilling a certain level of morality and positive precepts in our sons, daughters, and younger generation as a whole. Our children are our future – a cliché – but true nonetheless..."

SB: THIS post was Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith

GET comfy with yourself SO you can be comfortable with others!

Because I choose to love 'freely' does not mean I choose to love 'frivolously' it simply means I choose to be open to that agape wondrous - easy - type of love *smile*

I'm perplexed - honestly - why do we find it easier to dislike or have disdain for another because they look different?.. we turn up our top lip because they dress differently... we throw our nose in the air because they think or believe differently... we snicker And whisper because they talk differently... we mock them because their behavior is different. Why? Geeze. 

IT stems from insecurity... Don't hinder yourself... Don't allow yourself to operate in insecurity. Get comfortable with - who you are - so you can be comfortable with who THEY are!.. that other crap is old And tiring... Life is all about choice - choose to move forward *wink*

Call me a modern day flower child IF you will BUT I find it much easier to spread love not hate!.. And then - I just keep it movin' *double wink*