ONLY on contingency... The Engagement.

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WHEN someone else's expectation differs from your own...

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they had discussed marriage but she felt there were things they must workout BEFORE saying "I do" he felt "love could conquer all"

when we tie ourselves to someone - FOR LIFE - we should darn well be certain we are tying ourselves to something (someone) who will be worth the sacrifice | the commitment ... He wanted to marry; she was leery. He asked; she finally said "yes BUT only on contingency." 

people thought she was crazy... they said "you've known him most of your life; he's a good man." they said "he has a nice home. And he's a solid provider." they said "he is so "handsome. And sexy too; ya'll look good together." girl" they said, "what's wrong with you?" 

'Love Jones' is one of my absolute favorite movies. One of the many memorable quotes from the movie is: "physics this sh*t aint"   *hahahaha... I love it* but um, I beg to differ *smilin* webster's partial definition of physics is: 'the science of matter and energy - and of interaction between the two - grouped in traditional fields'... SO why not apply 'webster' to the relationship?... 

he & she are, of course, the matter... And obviously the energy is the composition (the vigor; strength; power) between the two in relation. IF the balance is OFF, which she realized it was; greatly OFF; why would you commit your life to an unbalanced relationship?...

another quote from 'Love Jones'... "It's not supposed to make sense... love... passion... it is what it is..." in my personal opinion, WHICH of course this is what this is, passion is an essential element in a relationship (it's yummy, I always say, eat it up) but when the passion is removed - the relationship has to be layered with something (more than one something actually) that is just as powerful... ... ... a true desire to commit. for life!... commitment is another key element. be honest. say "no" IF you have NO desire to commit. it will save both parties a lot of headaches & heartache.

nope. nah. nada... IT (he) was a wonderful guy for someone else. she cared for him greatly BUT he was not her match... after about 1-year 1/2, of trying to work it up down and all around, she gave him his ring back. she decided there were just too many things she did not want to contend with. for life! 

don't allow someone else's mediocre expectation of Life... Love... be a disappointing end to your great anticipation. Life... Love... we only get one try at this thing (a cliche I know but whatever)... STAY open welcome and willing but don't haphazardly give your Life... Love... away to someone else... I just couldn't. *wink* he or she is getting the absolute best. shouldn't you???